For my Janan on your 26th!
You do so many little things day to day that only ever elevate my opinion of you. You are such a gift in my life and you deserve to know it… so I decided to tell the story of the amazing human you are.
I recall telling her for the first time in about 6 years that I was returning home. I’ve never seen someone more excited to see me than the happy OOOOMMMMYYYY GGGOOOOSSSSHHH messages I received simply from her excitement at the prospect of seeing me again…
Few people care about maintaining a relationship with you when you move abroad and have no set return date. Because to them, it’s what’s the point? There are so many points I’d say but that’s another blog post. Janan, on the other hand, didn’t care. She kept checking in on me consistently, asking if I was doing okay and if everything was well. Often, just to tell me how much she misses me! It’s one thing to sustain a relationship knowing that you’ll be in near proximity again at some point. To do it without any of the assurance still astounds me, but she did it ALLL for years.
One time, I was telling her how excited I was that I was starting to date this guy that I was absolutely infatuated with… then I said, “but you know, I’m scared that what if it doesn’t work out with him… yet I really like him” She then said, “Oh don’t worry, if you like him for who he is, then there’s plenty of nice guys out there too. If it doesn’t work out with him, we will find those other nice guys out there and we’ll be happy, it will all be okay. Enjoy the happy moments now. We’ll get through the bad days if it happens.” Did I say she gives the best advice?
It’s true.. it didn’t work out with that guy and I’ve gone on to meet plenty of other nice guys… it’s her advice that gave me hope that it’s okay for something you like to end, there’s plenty of other people you will like. It’s life, keep moving.
The most significant thing is how she’s always there to pick me up, no matter what.
It’s the way she gets annoyed, like really annoyed, when people hurt my feelings. We go on to nickname them bad names, and she refuses to engage with them after that… “You hurt my friend, so I don’t fuck with you either,” she does that for me.
I easily panic, worry, and I can get really anxious about life’s hardships. She then says, “It’s okay, I know you can’t do this right now, so I’ll do it for you…” We’ll work together to get through this. Sometimes people undervalue female relationships, but there’s nothing like feeling the world collapse around you while having that person…in your corner, loving on you for a long time.
Janan is compassionate, sweet, and loving. She’s the absolute greatest listener and there’re days I take over our conversations venting about my life. When I catch myself and say, “Man, I’m sorry, I’ve hijacked this conversation with nothing but my troubles, let’s talk about you now," She says, no no no, today it’s about you hun, today we are talking it out till you feel confident to do something else. When you’re done with me, I’ll leave. This girl is just magical.
On hard days, she gives me tight hugs and tells me to cry it out and when I’m ready to talk about it, I should call her.
And then my God, she’s beautiful on the outside. When you see her, you’ll know.
Now, she’s one of those people who has many close friends and plenty of people would say the same about her… I’m not the only person who shares such deep found appreciation for her friendship and sisterhood. That’s why I’m grateful that you, my friend, were born today. You’re a blessing and a light to so many people with how you love and care about the people in your life. Thank you!
Soon, we’re gonna travel the world and make lots of memories… I promise. In the meantime, keep lighting up our world :). I love you.
-Big Head ❤.