When music means: Death, New Life, Transformation, Celebration…

Music & Death

Some songs help you grieve.

You know that friend you call when things are going wrong in your life, and you know they’ll be there for you. Or when things are going well, they are the first to celebrate you. They’ve shown up in your life in ways that have repeatedly demonstrated how much they love and care for you. Then one day you wake up and that friend is gone. Forever and ever.

My beautiful friend lost 2 of her best friends in less than 12 months. If you’ve never lost someone so close and dear, you feel so…


How I dealt with severe imposter syndrome.

I used to think I was dumb because I struggled academically in high school.

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At university, I chose computer science as my major because I assumed it was a course anyone could do regardless of one’s academic background or level of intelligence. Also, I was intrigued by the possibility of using technology to solve real-world problems. Had I known what it’d take to be a computer scientist beforehand, I would have never entered the field. I would have automatically disqualified myself as incompetent.

Most people who choose to do computer science believe they have an above-average level of intelligence so…


For my Janan on your 26th!

You do so many little things day to day that only ever elevate my opinion of you. You are such a gift in my life and you deserve to know it… so I decided to tell the story of the amazing human you are.

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I recall telling her for the first time in about 6 years that I was returning home. I’ve never seen someone more excited to see me than the happy OOOOMMMMYYYY GGGOOOOSSSSHHH messages I received simply from her excitement at the prospect of seeing me again…

Few people care about maintaining a relationship with you when you…


Because I’m not asking you why you drink either…

I grew up in a home of born-again Christians and taking alcohol was perceived as a sin. This didn’t make sense to me because the Bible condemned getting drunk just as it condemned gluttony. Why were we still eating food and yet prohibited alcohol in any measure?

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My decision not to take alcohol is not religious. I’m not religious. It’s a set of many reasons that I feel are enough for me. However, there’s a subset of people who consume alcohol that make it their personal mission to persuade someone who…


Why Women Wear Bras and Get Breast Implants.

Rita, one of my friends, hates wearing bras. Her family used to make fun of her when she didn’t wear any. “Why would you want to walk around with sagging breasts? You’re inviting men to touch you and have sex with you” they’d tell her.

Shonda, another of my friends, was always mocked about her tiny breasts. “Why bother wearing a bra when you have peanuts for breasts?” her family would say. She says the criticism made her feel humiliated, insecure about her breast size and had a negative impact on her self-esteem.

According to an article in The Postoast…

Nekesa Mercy

Software Engineer | Writer | Start-up Founder | My thoughts can be unconventional, proceed with caution...

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